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Palestinian Voices: Tala Abu Rahmeh

Back of a Palestinian woman looking into the horizon in a prairie

Drawing of Woman screaming in pain in black and white with grey background

No Word in English Translates by Anonymous

There is no English equivalent to the Arabic word qaher. The dictionary says "anger," but it's not.

It is when you take anger, place it on a low fire, add injustice, oppression, racism, dehumanization to it, and leave it to cook slowly for a century. And then you try to say it but no one hears you. So it sits in your heart. And settles in your cells. And it becomes your genetic imprint. And then moves through generations. And one day, you find yourself unable to breathe. It washes over you and demands to break out of you. You weep. And the cycle repeats.


Compassion impels us to work tirelessly to alleviate the suffering of our fellow creatures, to dethrone ourselves from the centre of our world and put another there, and to honor the inviolable sanctity of every single human being, treating everybody, without exception, with absolute justice, equity and respect.

~Charter for Compassion Declaration 


As we continue to bear witness to the atrocities unfolding in Palestine, where over 11,000 human beings have been killed by Israeli airstrikes, over 4600 of whom are children, and with at least 3250 people still trapped underneath the rubble of bombed and shattered buildings and 1.6 million people displaced (source: Al Jazeera, Palestinian Ministry of Health, Israeli Army, Palestinian Red Crescent Society as of Nov 13, 2023) we are reminded that each reported figure of this tragic humanitarian catastrophe represents not only the devastating loss of human life, but with it, the instant disappearance of each human being’s personal and collective universe of hopes and dreams, happiness and fears, love and compassion, and their reason for existence. 

The Charter for Compassion would like to share with you Voices, both written and visual, from two Palestinian women. We aspire for this to be an ongoing series, one that will include the voices of all others who wish to share their reflections and reactions. Both women have agreed for the Charter to share their work and both women have dedicated their entire adult lives, working towards achieving their rights and the rights of others, using compassionate, non-violent means.

The written piece below is by Tala Abu Rahmeh, a Palestinian woman who grew up under the occupation and currently lives in New York. The illustration above and those following Tala’s piece have been created by a Palestinian woman currently living in Palestine, who chooses to stay anonymous (in genuine fear that if she shared her full name and bio, that she and her family may be targeted even more than they currently are for sharing their lived truths and realities). Tala’s bio follows her piece.         

-Anum Mulla & Shane O'Connor


I Grew Up in Palestine

One of my earliest memories is of my mother calling my aunt, who was in the United States at the time, to tell her that two of their cousins were shot by the Israeli army, but the third survived because he splashed their blood on his body and laid still until the soldiers left. I remember hearing screams from the other end of the phone. Later that day I placed an imaginary call to my aunt to tell her that I put bandages on them, and they are ok now. I was 5 years old.

When I was putting my daughter to bed last night, I sang to her a song my father used to sing me "I wish my body was a bridge that you can safely walk on, and we can live together in freedom in Palestine." As I put her in her crib, in her safe room in Brooklyn, I thought that her safety was completely arbitrary, a pure accident of birth. I could have easily been putting her in her crib in Gaza, knowing fully well that she, or I, or both of us might never see the light of day again, might never have another morning together, might be getting pulled from the rubble of Gaza as we speak.

I grew up in Palestine. As a child, I experienced nonsensical and unspeakable violence, too much to write or speak about, but my mother used to always tell me that our own self liberation comes from humanizing our occupier, and their biggest defeat will always come from their systemic and intentional dehumanization of us. Considering how my mother had to grow up, that feels like an impossible feat, but somehow, she managed to practice what she preached.

When a herd of Israeli soldiers stormed our home during the second intifada (2002) and put us all in one room with an AK47 pointed at us, my mother asked the soldier pointing the gun about how he was feeling and if he missed his family. She asked him if he was going to be able to go to college and said that she hopes that he will be able to go back to his mother soon.

When she was diagnosed with cancer and had to cross a checkpoint on foot, to receive treatment at an Israeli hospital (since Israel doesn't allow Palestinians to have access to chemotherapy), she befriended all the Israeli doctors and nurses, and used to say that she looked forward to going because they served the best cheese sandwiches. She would also say that now "she has Israeli blood in her" after every blood transfusion.

When my mother died at that same hospital, we had to wait for hours for them to find an "Arab" doctor to sign her body out, because her brown Arab body wasn't fit for an Israeli doctor to process. If my mom had been there at that moment, she would have said that it's ok, because they just didn't know any better.

I write all this to say that I think my mother would be upset with me right now, because I'm finding it very difficult to empathize with my occupier. I am ashamed that when I first heard that there were Israeli casualties a few weeks ago, my first thought was that maybe now they can understand how we have felt for 75 years, how we have been oppressed, killed, dehumanized, maimed, suffocated, kidnapped, jailed, and bombed. Maybe if they understood, they would stop, but empathy is not a symptom of war, neither is nuance, because the idea that all Palestinians are Hamas supporters is not only wildly inaccurate but dehumanizing and dangerous.

Make no mistake, we are probably the only ones who understand how a lot of Jewish people are feeling right now, with their collective trauma resurfacing and nightmarish images of gas chambers and intentional annihilation for decades flashing before their eyes with rawness, as a confirmation that they will always be persecuted as a result of their religion and culture, but also know, that if you are perpetuating violence against Palestinians from your comfortable and safe homes in the West, you are personally participating in the continued unsafet and instability of your fellow Israeli Jews. It has become clear that Israelis will only live in peace when Palestinians are afforded the same luxury, and that the constant oppression of another people is not an appropriate or productive trauma response.

When I was 7 years old, I remember my mother falling to the floor when she heard that 28 Palestinians were shot by an Israeli settler as they were kneeling during morning prayers in a mosque in Hebron. Today, I hide my tears from my daughter when I look at images of Palestinian babies, who look exactly like her, being pulled from the rubble. Generations of Palestinian grief are not enough to convince the Western world that we are humans too, that we also deserve freedom, dignity and a chance at joy.

I have been wondering how many dead children are enough for this incomprehensible violence against Palestinians to stop, for the Israeli government to feel satisfied and for its murderous rage to quell, even if just for a little bit, to give families a chance to bury their dead, but I keep forgetting that to them we all deserve to die, and after they kill us all, they will kill our animals, trees and inanimate objects, and that thought fills me with sadness for them. Can you imagine what has to happen to your core to become like that? Can you imagine the nightmare that is your life when you feel this way about other people?

My only solace comes from the words of James Baldwin, from his letter to his nephew, where he writes "those innocents who believed that your imprisonment made them safe are losing their grasp of reality. But these men are your brothers, your lost younger brothers, and if the word "integration" means anything, this is what it means, that we with love shall force our brothers to see themselves as they are, to cease fleeing from reality and begin to change it."

I will, for the sake of my mother, pray for their children, who are just as precious as mine, and dream of a day when we are all free.


Bio: Tala Abu Rahmeh is a therapist, writer and translator based in New York City. Born to a refugee father and an internally displaced mother, Tala grew up between Jordan and Palestine. You can find her writing in LA Review of Books, Enizagam, 34th Parallel, Blast Furnace, Timberline Review, Kweli, Penn Center USA, and most recently in We Call to the Eye & the Night: Love Poems by Writers of Arab Descent, by Persea Books. Tala holds an MFA in Poetry from American University and a Masters in Social Work from Columbia University.


A Gallery by Anonymous


Qaher is a symbol in Arabic that doesn't translate to English but similar to anger, but not

Anger But Not by Khadija dajani



Drawing of a girl, looking like praying, with a butterfly in her hand

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sketch of a woman covering her crying face with her hands, and her legs showing dimly in a black background

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Painting of a shape of a motherly woman made by colorful plants

A Mother’s Dream by Anonymous.



sketch of a veiny hand holding a tree growing from the palm of the hand

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